Hi. I'm new here. My name is Matt, and I live in Quebec, Canada.
I have read this entire thread, because my 2008 Patriot's 4wd! light came on after a bearing was changed on the front passenger wheel, two weeks ago. I went to a small "no name" garage near my home, and that light came on right after. The guy had NO CLUE what was going on, and after a little while, I decided to go somewhere else, because it was leading nowhere (I know, I'll to pay for everything, but time is more an issue than money here).
So I went to a bigger place this morning. The guy told me he can read that the on-board computer "thinks" the wheel with the new bearing is going 7 mph faster than the three others, which of course makes no sense, so it automatically deactivates the all-wheel drive. He said the new bearing, and sensor (still the original) both look undamaged, so the only thing he could try was to replace the bearing. Also, he checked all 4 tires, because a faulty tire sometimes causes this alert, he told me.
After some thinking and talking, I decided to leave things as they are right now, and bring my Patriot to the dealer. I have an appointment this Friday morning.
I'll let you guys know what happens then so it might be useful to other users in the future.