Please don't "almost end up with an Escape." That would be bad news. As for the Commander: I've test-driven it a couple of times and I love it. I've read reviews that say "it's not big enough," or that it's "a 7-passenger SUV for dwarves." I totally disagree. I mean, it's not as big as a Tahoe or Yukon, but just by looking at those, they obviously look a lot bigger than the Commander. As for the ride, I felt it was very smooth, similar to the '05-present JGC. It has a lot of power (even the V6 which I've also read is way underpowered). The only complaint I would have is the the visibility through the rearview mirror isn't the best when the 3rd row is up. I can't imagine how much worst it is with 7 people in the vehicle.
I am still all for the Commander, and I am very upset that '09 will be the last year it will be made.