Welcome! As for advice, I admit I love giving it, but the short version is simply: "do the maintenance."
There's a lot of discussion on here about tire sizes and lifts. You can use the search box above where it says "search community." Lifts and spacers will enable larger than OEM tires but will also shorten the life of front end components. Front end has been a weak point for many, but I wonder how many had monkeyed with their Patriots enough to account for that.
I've had two Patriots.
My 2008 was sold to a friend two years ago. Its still on the road and near 300,000 miles.
My 2014 is about half those miles and so far only brakes and front wheel bearings.